Love ya
Sis-n-law

Love ya
Sis-n-law

Let me first begin in the beginning, Ian’s grandparents received orders or whatever to  go to Singapore to work. At that time, Janet was a young single girl who had befriended a co-worker named Terry who was married to a sailor, named David Higgs. she made it her goal to get David away from a marriage and started to spread lies that Terry was a horrible wife to David….when she heard that her parents were to go to Singapore for 3 years, she didn’t want to go, but changed her mind when she found out that David would be stationed there.

She got her parents pay for voyage at the time when it was very expensive to travel to another country…To me, that is a person KNOWINGLY trying to break a marriage and will do anything to get what that person wants.

When Ian and I got together, we were both married to other people. I tried to see if I could help him get back what was missing in his relationship…..but it was not to be, Ian said all the things that I suggested has been tried and no go…as for my situation, I just lost any feelings for Mark (ex husband) and I knew that I had to move on.

When Ian did tell his wife then (Stephanie May), he was criticized by the people that he was doing something wrong. My question is, why stay in a marriage that is going nowhere and when the kids are all grown and they have their own families, what becomes of both of you? Ian’s case was not as disgraceful as what Janet did to break up a marriage duly just to get her man and on top of that….had a child by another man (who she can’t remember) when they returned from Singapore to UK; she was thenwhisked away by her parents to some place to have the baby, as they were ashamed.

And now, that Brian May has passed, I’m glad that he is gone, and I’ve let Ian know how I felt as this man never once came over to our home even after the many invites we gave him. He always had an excuse that the Club needed him….well Ian spoke to John who is the Steward and says he really didn’t need to be there and he could go…but NO, he choose not to and refused to meet Ian half way…its always been a one way street…after a while, you tire of the whole situation.

When Karen made that comment, that GUILT….I think NOT my dear, you all have ocstracized me even before you knew who I am…I am not the person who tried to break up a marriage like what your mother has done, Ian did the chasing and I tried to help him get his marriage worked out. The only sad part of this whole situation is that the boys only know one side of the story, as she won’t let him tell his side only her side.

Karen, you made some comments that Ian has been disowned, but sorry, to tell you… although you can disown a family member, you are stuck with Ian whether you like it or not.  YOU all choose to disown him and I feel that he has a better family now. We have welcomed him with open arms in my ever growing family. You can curse, call me names, but I really don’t give a damn what you think, People that lives in glass houses should not throw stones, as it might bite them back.

So if you do decide to answer me, please do, I welcome your reply. I don’t have a skeletons in my closets, but you, and it seems some of your family members do…
Ian’s loving wife
Kathy

Let me first begin in the beginning, Ian’s grandparents received orders or whatever to  go to Singapore to work. At that time, Janet was a young single girl who had befriended a co-worker named Terry who was married to a sailor, named David Higgs. she made it her goal to get David away from a marriage and started to spread lies that Terry was a horrible wife to David….when she heard that her parents were to go to Singapore for 3 years, she didn’t want to go, but changed her mind when she found out that David would be stationed there.

She got her parents pay for voyage at the time when it was very expensive to travel to another country…To me, that is a person KNOWINGLY trying to break a marriage and will do anything to get what that person wants.

When Ian and I got together, we were both married to other people. I tried to see if I could help him get back what was missing in his relationship…..but it was not to be, Ian said all the things that I suggested has been tried and no go…as for my situation, I just lost any feelings for Mark (ex husband) and I knew that I had to move on.

When Ian did tell his wife then (Stephanie May), he was criticized by the people that he was doing something wrong. My question is, why stay in a marriage that is going nowhere and when the kids are all grown and they have their own families, what becomes of both of you? Ian’s case was not as disgraceful as what Janet did to break up a marriage duly just to get her man and on top of that….had a child by another man (who she can’t remember) when they returned from Singapore to UK; she was thenwhisked away by her parents to some place to have the baby, as they were ashamed.

And now, that Brian May has passed, I’m glad that he is gone, and I’ve let Ian know how I felt as this man never once came over to our home even after the many invites we gave him. He always had an excuse that the Club needed him….well Ian spoke to John who is the Steward and says he really didn’t need to be there and he could go…but NO, he choose not to and refused to meet Ian half way…its always been a one way street…after a while, you tire of the whole situation.

When Karen made that comment, that GUILT….I think NOT my dear, you all have ocstracized me even before you knew who I am…I am not the person who tried to break up a marriage like what your mother has done, Ian did the chasing and I tried to help him get his marriage worked out. The only sad part of this whole situation is that the boys only know one side of the story, as she won’t let him tell his side only her side.

Karen, you made some comments that Ian has been disowned, but sorry, to tell you… although you can disown a family member, you are stuck with Ian whether you like it or not.  YOU all choose to disown him and I feel that he has a better family now. We have welcomed him with open arms in my ever growing family. You can curse, call me names, but I really don’t give a damn what you think, People that lives in glass houses should not throw stones, as it might bite them back.

So if you do decide to answer me, please do, I welcome your reply. I don’t have a skeletons in my closets, but you, and it seems some of your family members do…
Ian’s loving wife
Kathy

I understand it was my father’s wish for any money to be donated to the Merchant Navy Association, so I shall send it there.

I understand it was my father’s wish for any money to be donated to the Merchant Navy Association, so I shall send it there.