05 Jan 12 Nine Female Words
(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!
(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
(6) That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you’re welcome. (I want to add in a clause here – This is true, unless she says ‘Thanks a lot’ – that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say ‘you’re welcome’. That will bring on a ‘whatever’).
(8) Whatever: Is a woman’s way of saying F— YOU!
(9) Don’t worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking ‘What’s wrong?’ For the woman’s response, refer to # 3.
Tags: calm before the storm, five minutes, five more minutes, mistake, sarcasm, several times, toes, whatever, women's words
29 Apr 10 Private? Then Don’t Post It!
Some say that once you start an online life you give up your privacy. Your footprint soon travels in cyberspace. How often do we hear that once you’ve posted that picture, or uttered those words, they are out there forever?
There’s a lot of truth in that. I can find at least one personal website that I created back as far as 1997. Much of the information is inaccurate now, of course. For a start I’m 13 years older. I’ve also re-married, changed careers, and moved since then.
The point is, it’s still out there 13 years later. If I’d been a gigolo or a porn star, and made a web site about that, chances are that it would still be out there too. Perhaps I’d then be worrying every day that my new boss was going to find out. Perhaps I’d thought about running for some political office, and would be scared my dark past would come back to haunt me.
Of course, it’s down to the individual.
One downside is that where we’re younger, wilder, perhaps a bit more immature, it seems great fun to post endless pictures of the wild nights in the bar, or, perhaps worse, videos of us having rowdy drunken fun. *
There’s a lot of talk recently about Facebook privacy. Many people post much information about themselves there. Twitter is another place where you see a surprising amount of personal information posted.
I would always recommend discretion myself. My take on it is this. I don’t really have any skeletons in my closet, but I’ve always worked on the premise that I only tell people what I want them to know. If I don’t tell you about the red and green striped wart on my rear end, you can’t even go and mention that to someone else by mistake, or because you were bursting to tell someone. I’m not burdening you with MY secrets that way. It’s similar online but for one BIG difference.
Back in say 1990, if someone took photographs of my drunken antics in the bar one evening, it would be something to giggle or groan at the following week among our group. Nowadays, they’re invariably posted on a service such as Facebook, often as they happen. By the time you sober up and realize, and contact your friend to get them taken down, millions of people, including a prospective employer may have seen them. Also, your friend may have posted them in other places you’re not even aware of!
The big complaint though about privacy on services such as Facebook is that many users feel that they’re not in control of what get posted publicly and what doesn’t. It should be the case that YOU can decide what is public in your profile and what is private. However, at the end of the day, don’t post anything online that you want to keep private. If, for example, you’re sensitive about your age, don’t put your full date of birth up there for everyone to see!
Same goes for anything else. Whatever service you use, if you really don’t want anyone to know about it, don’t put it online. Keep it locked away in your mind.
Many people feel that when they leave a service, they should be able to delete any information about themselves that is held by that service. Great idea, except we come back to that 1997 example I wrote about earlier. I left that ISP and the web space that went with it back in 2001, when I first got broadband, and the site itself had been changed a lot between 1997 and 2001 in any case. Data spreads around the Internet, that’s the nature of the beast.
Oh and as an aside don’t forget that when you get rid of a computer, be sure to delete the data on the drive first. Use a decent deletion utility – not just reformat the drive. If the data is really sensitive, consider removing the drive from the machine, and using it in a new machine, or if it’s too old or small, physically destroy it. Am I being over dramatic here? Better to be safe than sorry!
As a small business IT consultant, I am still surprised at some of the data that gets left on old computers that I get asked to dispose of. I guess I shouldn’t be by now.
Ultimately though, you ARE in charge of your privacy on social media sites. If it’s THAT private, don’t post it!
* (Personally, unless I thought someone had an alcohol problem, I’d rather employ someone that was a sociable happy type (assuming they had the required skill-set) than a stuffed shirt. However, not all employers think that way – particularly those that are stuffed shirts themselves).
Tags: complain, computer, Computers, cyberspace, discretion, downside, drunken antics, facebook, mistake, new boss, personal website, rear end, small business, video, wild nights, years later
01 Jan 09 2009
I usually forget about the end of January. That’s when I stop making a deliberate effort to remember that it’s a new year, and that’s when I make the mistake and put the previous year on stuff.
Anyway, I hope you had a pleasant evening seeing in the New Year in, or, if you don’t celebrate, a pleasant evening anyway.
If you did celebrate, I hope you’re not too hung over.
If you had a good year in 2008, may 2009 be even better, and if 2008 was a year you’d rather forget, well forget it! It’s 2009 now.
I know it’s only an arbitary date, but it’s still a good time to look forward, and set a few new goals for a new year.
Talking of goals, set them high for sure, but don’t set them too high that they are unattainable. If you really don’t think you make a million this year, go for $100K, or even $10K.
You’ll feel better than you made that lesser goal, and it’ll give you a starting place, and even more inspiration for 2010. Don’t undersell yourself of course, and whatever you do, when you reach that goal, if you can carry on past it, then be sure you do!
Tags: deliberate effort, good year, happy new year, mistake, new year, previous year
